I have realized since I posted last that it is all about a balance. Mainly, at this stage in my life I feel as if I am best off being "selfish." Not in the cruel, self-absorbed sort of way that the word "selfish" automatically conjures, but in the way that helps you balance yourself out, take charge of what you seek and do what is best for you. I think this tidbit of advice/theory/philosophy is especially important for young women chasing a professional goal.
We (women) so often rely on our emotions to make a decision for us. Which is not a bad thing, it just must be used only in the proper setting. Emotional rationalizations are rarely effective when making a professional or financial decision. They are best reserved for your sex life, your wardrobe choices, maybe even which bottle of wine you select to crack open on a humid, Thursday evening while chit-chatting with room mates and browsing the latest headlines on NYT.com.
Selfish decisions should be made in your career; if it is a full-blooded, wildly rampant success story in a corporate or business like setting that you desire. In this sense, never let your emotions make decisions for you. Let them motivate you. If men believe they have the advantage of thinking rationally, then by hell, women have the advantage of transferring emotional energy into any capacity they can muster that might advance them in their professional life.
This is obviously a delicate, tender balance. The line between deciding emotionally and motivation through emotion is blurry, dotted or even slightly worn with tried and true experiences past. But, in my humble, limited, slightly "I am woman, hear me roar" experience thus far, using the emotions of my personal life to motivate me to kick-ass in my ever-budding professional existence has only rarely proven not effective.